PEOPLE WHO PUT YOU OFF

Welcome to the Blog-A-Licious tour no.8. Enjoy the tour....before Memoirs of a homemaker is the talented writer Totsy and after Memoirs....is another creative homemaker and writer Sheeza. 

For starters, let me say that people who break the queue; who break traffic rules; who spit indiscriminately in public …..Are the types who put me off.  India is now amidst a huge anti-corruption movement. All politicians, whether a big fish or a small fly, are a huge turn off.

Instead of focusing on the “people who put me off”, let me just tell you about the types of people I like or the qualities I like in them. So, that sort of narrows it down.

No one is perfect. Someone may be having a bad hair day, or going through PMS, may be bogged down by workload….to each, his own. Someone’s happiness maybe someone else’s angst. So, let me not categorize people as ‘good’, ‘bad’ or ‘ugly’, because there may be someone out there who will be categorizing me a ‘slob.’

I am fortunate enough to be surrounded by people who are positive and who do not poke their noses unnecessarily into my life. I live away from my hometown. All my kith and kin, who are also my thick and thin – live in my home town. I visit them once or twice a year, and because our meetings are few and far apart we enrich it by creating memories overlooking pettiness, imperfections and idiosyncrasies. And the friends I have here in Mumbai, they are few and just as wonderful.

I do of course, stay away from people who at first meeting give me negative vibes.

“It is not who you are or what you did, but people will remember you for how you made them feel.”

When I was a kid, not everyone had a telephone at their home.  We were fortunate to have one because there would always be a stream of people who would either be receiving calls or making one. Back then, the whole neighbourhood was like a one big extended family, celebrating festivals together, watching TV together…..so much so that we used to spend much of our time at our friends’ place rather than ours!  Some years back, my mom called up a lady to wish her on her 25^th wedding anniversary. The lady had long since moved out of our neighbourhood and all those years there were little or no contact with her. So, when mom remembered and called her, Mrs. G was not only surprised, but was overcome with emotion.

It is these little acts of thoughtfulness that show how much we value people and the relationship we have with them. In today’s fast paced world, taking a bit of time off from one’s busy (somehow, I don’t like this word) schedule to connect with friends and family goes a long way in showing that you really care.

“It is nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.” – Author Unknown.

There are some lessons my parents did not teach us, but they set us an example by living them.

1.     Shelley - http://bookfare.blogspot.com/ 
2. Totsy - http://totsymae.com/ 
3. Janu - http://janukulkarni.blogspot.com 
4. Shaeeza - http://shaeeza.blogspot.com/ 
5. Dora - http://peacefrompieces.blogspot.com/ 
6. Corinne - http://www.everydaygyaan.com 
7. Rhiannon - http://www.rhiannonpaille.com/ 
8. Ryder - http://ryderislington.wordpress.com/ 
9. Karen - http://www.karenvwasylowski.blogspot.com 
10. Karen - http://www.britsunited.blogspot.com 
11. Dora - http://blogaliciousauthors.blogspot.com/