Today, there is a lot of hype and pressure regarding the
education of our kids. Right from the kindergarten to the graduate level and
beyond....100% is just not enough.
And parenting, like life, doesn't come with instructions.
Just follow your instincts and hope what we are doing will work out for their
best!
When I was a student, we did not take tuitions, nor did our
parents pressurize us to study all the time. The students who scored
distinction were just handful and were revered. The scenario today is
completely different....80% is peanuts!!
So, when my daughter was in the 9th and her
friends's parents were scrambling frantically to search for a ideal teacher/
tutorial for their kids 10th grade “boards”, (the word used to
terrorize the kids to study and cram) I was just wondering...why all the
hullabaloo and undue stress?
My daughter took up group tuitions and when she scored 91%,
our happiness knew no bounds. That is because we did not have any expectation.
We always encouraged her to do whatever she wanted. All the pressure she
experienced came from school and her tutors...wasn’t that enough?
Annnddd...it was time to celebrate and rejoice. Along with
her were her cousins and her friends who had passed the boards with her. All of
them...Young Achievers. It was the first milestone of their lives and everyone
had crossed it with flying colours. Today, we are all super proud parents.
Am participating in the BlogFEST 2012 and prompting us today with the theme "Party Story" is Jenn.
Something to celebrate indeed!! How awesome is 91% !! And kudos to you for NOT pressuring her!!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for kicking off BlogFEST 2012 with us-- and here is to a great month of blogging ahead!! Cheers!! Jenn.
Thank you Jenn for the wonderful prompt and kind words.
DeleteThat is awesome! Congratulations to her and a wonderful reason to celebrate.
ReplyDeleteKathy
http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com
Thank you Kathy.
DeleteCheers to a proud mama and all of those beautiful young achievers. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks MM MiMi
DeleteDefinitely reason to throw a party! That is awesome.
ReplyDeleteThank you Sylvia.
Deleteyay good for her...and good for you for not putting that pressure on her of such high expectations...i imagine that helped her....but i am very excited for you and for her...smiles.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Brian.
DeleteYes indeed 91% means a party and parental pride. Kudos to you for knowing she had enough pressure and your support was much better. No expectations often brings great surprises!
ReplyDeleteSo true Jo. Thanks.
DeleteCongrats to your daughter and good for you in not putting too much pressure on her!
ReplyDeleteThanks Susan.
DeleteVery true Janaki.Not pressurizing brings out the best in kids.What a party you must have had!Great going for the blogfest. Hope some day I will be able to join in.
ReplyDeleteWish to share the platform with you some day. Thanks Sharmila.
DeleteGreat parenting Janaki and your daughter did you proud :) congrats.Your story is a must-read for all those parents forcing their kids to go beyond their capabilities, some kids can't handle this pressure.
ReplyDeleteI felt pressurized thinking whether I was doing the right thing. It all worked out in the end.
DeleteThanks Sulekha.
I really admire that you don't push your kids, Janaki. And when they do perform well they have every reason to celebrate their own initiative and hard work.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Corinne. By not pushing them...I save a lot of energy and have peace of mind.
DeleteThat sound like a great reason for party!
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